what’s the dating scene like for someone in their mid 20s?
24 year old female born and raised in chicago. i’ve only ever had 2 boyfriends, both i met in college.
my second boyfriend was more long term/serious but we ended up parting ways. he was the one to break up with me. he was a good guy, but didn’t know how to be a true partner to someone. and i minimized problems that were actually really big like gap in emotional maturity, controlling mom, and just generally not being a man in the way a woman needs. this all made me insecure in my place in his life, i began to nitpick, now we’re here. i knew i was unhappy for a while, and i held on a lot longer than i should’ve. i kept justifying it all bc he was a good guy, it was his first relationship, we could learn. which is embarrassing honestly, im pretty upset with myself for staying as long as i did. i really loved him, and i do miss him right now. but i do know if we stayed together longer/got married, i truly would have suffered. so im not as heartbroken and overwhelmingly sad as one may be.
now that we are broken up, i have a lot out of fear of going into the dating world. i absolutely am not trying to jump into another relationship or casual flings, that’s never been my style. i definitely need time to look inward at myself and just be in my own.
that being said, i am a worrier lol. i like to have a plan, i like to know what to expect. of course i can’t expect that with love but im young and dumb and i did. i hear horror stories of how hard it is to meet a decent person. and it genuinely worries me. and i really do not want to go on the dating apps guys pls.
i feel weird to brag about myself and all the good things about me. so ill just say this, i know who i am as a person and as a partner. i know that i bring a lot to the table financially, emotionally, physically.
this was a bit of a break up rant lol, but now we get to the actual question: hows dating in chicago?