u/Early_Pizza_3440

Hey guys

I ruptured my ACL and tore my MCR on March 21st or there abouts.

Now honestly there is zero pain, im walking, cycling, weight training the lot and feeling great. Obvs no sports because I dont want to re-injure, my MCL is healing nicely.

Anyway, I have surgery book privately via insurance on June 09th. However I am thinking of changing to October so that I can actually enjoy my summer, I can get as strong and shredded as possible from now till then.

That being said im reading that delying it could cause issues.

Any advice fellow ACL'ers lol

My girlfriend (33F) and I (37M) have been together for 4 years. She is genuinely one of the kindest, funniest, most loving people I've ever met. Attractive, caring, heart of gold. She is not the problem.

But something has felt off since about month 9-12. I can't place it. It's never gone away.

The practical stuff doesn't help:

- I'm in Brighton, she's in Manchester. Her family are close-knit and socialise a lot lovely people, but I find it draining, and the distance makes it a bigger commitment

- She's had ongoing health issues throughout our relationship not her fault at all, but it's been a consistent pattern and I can see it continuing. Nothing serious, more like flu, back aches, just stuff id get over normally. Power through and lock in.

- She currently earns good money but wants to eventually quit to work with animals for much less and lean on my income. I'm entrepreneurial and financially driven this feels like a fundamental values mismatch

- She has a very attached dog that factors into every decision

I told her I wanted to end things. She asked for a break instead. We're mid-break right now and I miss her terribly she genuinely feels like home after 4 years. I do truly love her. But this nagging felling is concerning me.

But here's my problem: I know I'm commitment-averse and I overthink everything. So I honestly cannot tell if the persistent "something's off" feeling is real intuition telling me this isn't right or just my brain sabotaging something genuinely good because commitment scares me.

Has anyone been in this position? How did you tell the difference between valid doubt and self-sabotage?