I (29F) have major trust issues in my relationship with my long distance partner (28M)
It started with some old letters I found written to him from other girls and some pictures with other girls. We talked about them and he assured me they were before my time we settled that and we talked about and everything was okay for awhile then something more recent happened where he sent me something that didn’t belong to me saying that I left it at his place. I asked him and he’s just saying he found it in his closet so he thought it was mine. I want to trust him but I battle with major anxiety and long distance is just hard for me recently. I don’t want to breakup with him because I already put him through that before but honestly I just feel like a bad girlfriend. Idk if I need to trust my gut or work on it some more on my side. I love him and we have been together for almost four years. I notice that these feelings come when he’s being distant (ie busy with work) or I have a lot on mind (currently some financial woes). Any advice or tips for those that maybe anxiously attached ? or help with self sabotage?