Girlfriend of one month randomly broke it off when things were going completely fine
Hello everyone, I’ve come to Reddit to see if I can find clarity for myself after the last week that I’ve been through.
For context I am 21yr and my partner is 20yr (WLW)
I started seeing this girl that I met on hinge just over a month ago. We connected instantly and everything was going amazing to say the least. We didn’t disagree on any topics, we saw each other multiple times a week, I helped them out with taking them to the doctors because they’ve been struggling with a health problem. Everything was looking up, they even told me how excited they were to ask me to be their girlfriend but they wanted to wait for a day where their physical health wasn’t in the way. Then everything broke down last Friday when they went to go visit friends in the city and have a night out.
They texted me the next morning saying that something bad happened when in the city. I asked if they were okay and if they were comfortable talking to me about it when ready but they kept shutting me out. I told them that I needed just a bit of communication so that I wasn’t sat there panicking of what could’ve happened. They said it was final and that what they share with me is up to them, so then I eventually let it go and was going to give them space to process whatever happened that night. The following day after not speaking much after this conversation they said we needed to talk and I agreed. They just flat out said that we moved too fast and that they can’t commit to me anymore. We went back and forth as I tried apologizing for pushing for answers the previous day and that I can give them the space they need but they said they made up their mind already and that it was over. They asked for their clothes back and told me to drop it off at their parents house and refused to even see me for a civil exchange.
2 days later i go and drop their clothes off at their parents house and let them know. But then what confuses me the most is that as i was trying to say my goodbyes and best wishes, they started to express how sorry they are about everything and then started to open up about the events that took place in the city. Told me they didn’t want to tell me because they didn’t want me to freak out. I told them I appreciated the honesty and being open. They continued to tell me how much they care about me and that they hope I’m okay. They even told me I can reach out to them if I ever need someone to talk to and it felt really genuine. The conversation ended with them saying that they hope that I’m doing okay, and I say the same thing back.
They never removed me off of social media and they are still watching my stories. It’s been over a day now since I sent that last text and they haven’t said anything back to me. I know how much they feel for me and our connection was so strong, they just got caught in a bad situation and panicked about it. I’m giving them the space they need, but I’m thinking I might reach out again in a few days to see how they are doing. I don’t want to make it seem like I want to fix things and get back together immediately, I just don’t want to lose what we had. I feel like things have a solid chance at being repaired since they decided to open up about things after they had time to cool off and calm down.
Any advice advice would be appreciated on how I can move forward with this. Is there any real chance at getting back together or should I just pack it up and move
on?