I (18F) am thinking about breaking up with my (19M) boyfriend
So me and my boyfriend got together about a year ago and before that were a situationship/friends with benefits type of thing, we have a relationship where I feel like we know eachother well enough to like even live with eachother but recently I’ve been doubting my relationship a lot.
I don’t know it its because of when I was in a last relationship previous to this one; things got bad in that relationship when I hit the one year mark with them.
But recently I feel like my boyfriend never asks about my interests, what I plan to do, and then if I have plans without him is suddenly when he randomly is questioning about it and he says its out of safety, he never tells me I can’t go somewhere or anything like that but the fact he only will ask me questions on a hangout or event he’s not invited too, like who I’m with, how I know these people, why am I invited, makes me feel a type of way.
Sometimes I mention something to him waiting for him to ask more about it he never does, any time I bring up a topic just by myself hes like “oh cool” “that makes sense” and moves on but never tries to make conversation based on it, but I always do for him, it makes me sad and he has a habit of whenever hes stressed out about something somehow things are always my fault and suddenly thats when he wants to tell me everything I’m doing wrong, he’s sweet besides that and usually we have a good time but sometimes it just feels like he looks for something to make it a bad day and we bicker; I’ve tried to make sure he wasn’t depressed or stressed out and be there for him but it makes me sad and I mention it; it I mention what he does wrong also he says stuff like “I always have to be the one to apologize” “its so convenient how I’m in the wrong too”.
It feels like he never tries to even remotely like what I want, if I go to shows (metal/rock) he questions me and asks to go but everytime he goes he just gets upset and hates there and then somehow again its my fault when I didn’t ask him to come, but he insists on coming for “my safety” like as if I’m not grown, he doesn’t like anything I like really and tries to find like flaws in it all the time in a way or just doesn’t ask
Theres another guy that I met that invited me to his band shows and we’re friends, idk if hes actually into me or anything but he bothers to ask me about my interests and actually make conversation and we stay up super late talking, we even have the same morals and upbringing and we have the same styles and hes confrontational enough to disagree and tell me his true thoughts but we get along pretty well and hes super polite always trying to pay for stuff, he seems cool and I’ve tried to put him onto my friends but he denies/passes and always just tries to make time to hang out with me.
He came 2 hrs from the bronx just to hangout with me for an hour & 30 mind before I go to work.