Found used condoms in his (36M) bin, I (36F) guess he’s using them for masturbation but why?
Update: they were for toys for anal experimentation. After your helpful insights, I talked to him (like I planned to!) and it was a lovely and exciting talk for us both. Thanks reddit.
We don’t use condoms for sex, he said he has never been able to orgasm while wearing one. He used to pull out then take off the condom to finish.
We bought some condoms ages ago for toys but never used them.
Tonight I went to put something back in his office, it smelled of cum and the bin was open so I could see multiple used condoms and tissues in there.
He recently quit watching porn but said he finds it difficult to cum without the visual stimulation.
I can’t work out how all this adds up. If it’s harder to cum without porn, and harder to cum with a condom on, why would he be using them?
I will ask him about it. Don’t worry.
I don’t think he’s cheating but I’ve been cheated on too many times and am quite gullible, so I want a vibe check & insight from reddit first.
We’re live together and have been together 2 years. Our sex life has been disrupted a lot lately because I’m having health problems that make sex too painful. I can’t even give him bjs because I get awful lock jaw from it. It’s not that I don’t want to. But he’s really struggling with us not having sex nearly as often as we used to.