Not everyone wants to have a big dick
Heres a different perspective. As a gay guy(above average)in a ltr with an average guy found my match. I really only liked to receive a good 90% of the time and it was quite annoying over the years when you come across someone who is handsome, great build, personality, kind, good hygiene, similar interests, independent financially who is self conscious about the fact I'm larger or suddenly becomes a fulltime bttm. Even if its not upfront later it becomes apparent. I can't tell you how many times its been a issue 1 way or another. And I'm not even a size king I like the person and sex isn't a penis, plus there's such thing as too big. Over the years I've even switched positions to try and make it work which im really not into and to down play my size because of the rejection in turn making me self conscious. You'd think it was heaven but it sucked for me relationships and sexually. Then I met this great guy who isn't self conscious, we understand each others needs and its a huge turn on even 9 years later.