Is it worth suggesting family therapy? She's having trouble with kids growing up
Ive come to a point where I have accepted that my mother acts the way she does due to shitty life circumstances and trauma and I try to maintain boundaries and grey rock as much as possible. It has been mostly working okay.
I have been out of home for some time but my siblings are still living with her. They are young adults and are exploring their fledgling independence. This is getting bad reactions from her. She feels abandoned by them doing normal young adult things and it spills over and she takes it out on me because im the emotional weak link. she knows i still care.
Its a constant battle because Im always questioning whether anything she does is genuine or out of pettiness or if she has been upset by someone and is lashing out. It takes all my effort not to be petty back. Every tone of voice i question. Everything she says I try to find the hidden meaning
Problem is, I know she only acts like this because she is deeply wounded. Has family therapy worked for anyone? She doesn't believe a psychologist would help her but maybe under the guise of "improving our relationship"? or is this just me being in denial and still hoping she can be better?
For context I dont think she likes me or sees any positive qualities in me. I think she only uses me to validate herself.
I just worry that as my siblings free themselves more and more, she will increasingly feel abandoned and lash out worse and worse...