Benefit of the Doubt
I like this Reddit. Posting as a Dad on parenting forums can be dangerous as there is a strong prejudice that you are lying and actually a terrible man.
I was downvoted on a thread here, when I presumed that an OP was in good faith and a decent Dad. He posted about parenting as a second shift, which can happen if the Mom is at home, and sees Dad coming home as her chance to be completely off-duty. Other posters presumed that he wanted to get home, drink beer, have his dinner made for him and just play on the internet all evening.
In truth, I think we should all have asked more questions.
If we take Moms' forums at face value, then we are all living in DH Lawrence novels. Which reflects the massive pressure women are under to live up to that ideal. I suggest that, I was wrong to naively assume the best, but also we should not assume the worst. Most Dads are absolutely doing their best, really are exhausted like Moms are exhausted and often without the same emotinal outlets.
TLDR; We should not presume the worst on Dads on this Reddit