I met a guy on a trip, now he’s visiting me and I’m worried I might want more than just something casual
I (25F) met this guy (26M) while I was on a trip a few weeks ago, and we hit it off. We’ve been consistently communicating ever since, and overall I enjoy talking to him.
We live in different states, and after about 3 weeks of talking, he’s now planning a trip to come see me.
One thing is that he sends me intimate pictures pretty often. I honestly don’t mind it, and I actually like receiving them, so that part isn’t necessarily a problem. I’m also not opposed to having sex, I’ve actually been celibate for a while, and part of me does want to.
What I’m struggling with is figuring out my own intentions and emotional capacity here.
I’m worried that if we do have sex, I might end up wanting something more than he can offer. He hasn’t really talked about anything relationship-related or long-term, and I get the sense that this may be more casual for him. I’ve tried casual situations before, and even when I tell myself I can handle it, I tend to end up ruminating, overthinking, and getting emotionally attached in ways I didn’t expect.
Part of me wonders if I should just let myself have sex, enjoy the experience for what it is, and be okay with the possibility that it might not lead to anything. But another part of me knows my history and worries I’m setting myself up to get hurt.
How do you know if you’re truly capable of keeping something casual? Should I have a conversation with him beforehand about intentions, or am I overthinking something that could just be simple?
Would love outside perspectives, especially from people who’ve been in similar situations.