So buckle up because this is an interesting story to say the least. Im 22F and my girlfriend is 23F and we have been together for 2.5 years. Until she randomly broke up with me last Thursday. I was totally blindsided and I had no idea she was feeling that way because we never fight and have never had any toxicity in our relationship.
We met in college because we ended up as roommates (lol). When we graduated we both moved home to figure out our next steps which happened to be 7 hours away from each other. The goal had always been to stay together and make long distance work. I’m not going to lie we struggled a lot with that. We just fell into the habit of surface level everyday conversations which only consisted of daily recaps. That is a really easy way to lose romantic connection and that is what happened.
What makes it interesting though is that she is about to move to being only 2 hours away from me. I was really excited about this because I was like finally we can revamp our connection because we will be so much closer. But instead she broke up with me. We decided to go a week with no contact and meet in the middle to talk everything out for a weekend and this is where I need help.
She is doing this for herself like it is genuinely “it’s not you it’s me” type of thing. She felt like she lost herself living at home in a toxic environment but also just putting so much into our relationship and she just felt like she never had time to be alone and figure out what she wants. I get that and while it sucks I also accept it because I’ve seen it on her for a long time and I really do want the best for her. I actually got to a point that I wanted to breakup too because I also need to focus on myself and what I want but we did a bad thing.
Saturday we bought wine and watched a movie and had breakup sex…. It was lowkey some of the best sex we’ve ever had which majorly complicates things and it’s also why we agreed to not completely cut each other off. The idea is to have some kind of weekly checkup where we talk to each other about where we’re at and what we see for the future.
My concern is that I’m going to have too much hope of it working out. Long distance isn’t going to be fixed. When she lives closer and gets out of her house she will improve a lot I know that much but we will still be 2 hours apart. I have a job where I am making good money and getting really good experience so I’m not in the position to move and I know she doesn’t want me to either. But if we come to the decision that we want to be together we will find a way to be together.
I have no idea what the future of us is going to look like and I have no idea what I even want and I have no idea what she wants. I’m worried that hanging on like this could be really bad for me. I have a hard time healing and it takes me a long time and I don’t want to prolong the hurt I’m going to feel if this doesn’t work out. So idk what do we think about semi no contact?