Narcissist mom tried feeding family unsafe food
recently, I hosted a party for 40 plus people and asked my father to make some of our traditional family foods (a stew). he and my mom arrived an hour late and my mom rushed in with the crockpot, asking for a sifting spoon. she began pulling black specks out of the stew and said my dad accidentally put too much pepper. this worried me because he has made this stew for 40 years… was he experiencing cognitive decline?
my alarm bells went off and I watched my mom closely.
She then took all the contents out of the stew with a strainer and began running tap water over it, asking me for another pot. By this point, the contents were in standing water. I said, “you can’t serve this to my guests; it’s not safe.” she called me an asshole in front of people. I had to wrangle the crock pot away and hide stew not in the sink in the garage.
Well, guess what she was sifting out? hint: it wasn’t pepper. apparently, she spilled potted plants all over the car and the dirt fell into the crock pot. my narcissist mother was trying to serve my guests dirt.
I’m trying to move on and be thankful for my boundaries and instincts. but of course I’m depressed about this. sigh.