This is a throwaway. My family think I might be overreacting but I don’t think so but am willing to listen to outside opinions. My ex husband had an affair 3 years ago. It wasn’t even a real affair just hooking up casually with a work colleague. I found out and just wanted to divorce. He was really shocked. It’s like he never expected to lose his marriage and family. We have two kids aged 3 and 6. His parents took my side. Not just because I was their daughter in law but I had literally nursed both of them through serious illnesses. They are good people.
They kept me in their lives and helped ex see that the marriage was over. He was devastated promising me everything under the sun but I wasn’t interested. He happily engaged in causal sex so I’m pretty sure that it was just the first time he got caught rather than his first time cheating. It took us two years to get every finished and custody arranged. We take turns with holidays and when it’s not my turn to have the kids his parents invite me to their celebration so I can spend time with the kids as that is where ex takes the kids to celebrate every holiday. I’m grateful for this as my kids are very little and I hate missing Christmas or Easter with them. But here’s the problem. On those visits to his parents house ex has been taken pictures of me playing or interacting with the kids. It’s just normal stuff. But then he will post these pictures to his social media as label them as his “family “ and his “people”. I’m not his family only our kids are.
I do not want to be posted on his social media and I do not want him taking pictures of me. He can take all the pictures he wants of his kids without me in the shot. They are his kids. And he can post them. I don’t care about that. I just hate that he is still trying to lay some “claim” to me publicly. The irony is when we were married he never posted me on his social media. Obviously because he didn’t want to be seen to be married. Now that we aren’t he’s trying to claim some kind of relationship with me that’s not there.
He has also been taking pictures of me with the kids recently at school and their sporting events and again posting them with that same captions. So I lost it with him and told him to stop taking my picture. That I’ll happily step out if he wants to get shots of the kids but he’s not to take pictures of me and not to post those pictures of me on social media. He did his wounded puppy act and I told him to cut it out that I was serious. He says he’s very hurt by what I said and my parents think I might have over reacted. Did I??