I’m 18 and live with my parents and younger brother, who is also a teenager. Last summer, my older brother, his wife, and their four kids moved into our family home. Their kids range from 9 years old to 1 year old.
They moved in because their landlord gave them notice and they didn’t have time to find permanent housing. My mom originally said it would probably be 6 months to a year, so it was meant to be temporary.
Before they moved in, the house was manageable. It was just me, my younger brother, and our parents, and we all helped with chores since our parents work.
Since they moved in, most of the cleaning in shared spaces still falls on me and my younger brother. The kids make messes, and my brother and his wife usually don’t clean them up or supervise much in the mornings. My younger brother and I tried cleaning daily at first, but after months we got burnt out.
They also said they would help with rent/bills when they moved in, but haven’t (they do buy most groceries). The only areas they really clean are their bathroom and sometimes the laundry room, though those are often still messy.
My parents are frustrated too, but my mom avoids confrontation because she doesn’t want tension in the house, so nothing is really being said.
Recently, they left for a trip without cleaning up after themselves or the kids, even though they had time before their flight. That really bothered me, along with feeling like I’m often expected to clean up after everyone, even guests they have over at the house sometimes make comments about me cleaning instead of helping.
I understand having four kids is hard, but it feels unfair that the responsibility keeps falling on me and my brother.
I guess I’m asking if I would be the asshole if I told them something or said something about it. I understand my parents should probably be saying something, but they won’t because they don’t want to make the situation tense. Helppp!