u/Easy_Laugh8093

I’m a 40f. Throughout my dating history, I keep encountering men who pursue me relentlessly and then go cold or stop feeling it when I’m all in.

I’m an attorney and symphonic violinist. I’ve been told that I’m conventionally attractive. I’m a very friendly and warm person.

In mid-February 2026, I met a 44 year old divorced dad, who is an architect.

In the first 3 weeks, we exchanged 800 messages. He initiated most of the messages and pursued me relentlessly.

We had great early dates. In early March, I had some nervousness about where this was headed and was overwhelmed by the constant messaging. I expressed this to him via text. He briefly broke up with me but re-engaged a week later.

We continued dating, texting, and sometimes FaceTiming at night.

A week ago, he told me that he wasn’t feeling it anymore and that he still had feelings for an ex who dumped him two years ago. He hasn’t seen her in two years but told me he’s going to pursue her. He told me that I was his second choice. He was annoyed that I became upset.

He told me that he lost feelings for me in early March and cited the fact that I respond to his messages quickly and initiated FaceTimes in the evening. He told me that he was thinking with his p**** when he got involved with me.

He told me he likes chill girls. He blocked me on his phone.

This is an ongoing pattern for me. I’m very heartbroken.