Advice for a partner who's struggling?
Hi guys. I'm not sure if this is allowed but I'm not actually the person trying to quit vaping. My boyfriend is. He's one of the most kind, sweet and sensitive people ever. He made a tough decision to stop vaping and to start NRT (he uses 4 mg Zonnic).
I'm super proud of him and I'm doing everything I can to support him. But we've had a lot of major changes (some great, some awful) in our lives recently and combined with my own health issues (mental and physical), his mood swings are really beginning to impact me.
The amount of time I get to talk to my partner now where he's not irritated about something is so little and it's causing deep depression. I've tried to talk about it and I truly understand how hard it can be going from 55 mg vape a day to so much less. But I feel so lonely and I have no support and my partner snaps even when I try to be supportive and encouraging.
He gets this look in his eyes like he wants to punch a wall or something when a noise startles him, I accidentally bump him or knock something over (I have mobility issues and I'm really clumsy in general) or if I talk too much or say the wrong thing. He's not a violent person at all, he's compassionate and emotional and so I feel like this contrast is confusing and hurting me despite the fact I know he's trying to quit and that his irritability is situational and not to do with me.
Anyways. It's to the point where I almost wish he'd start up again because I miss when he was nice to me and we were a team, and he seemed to genuinely enjoy my company. I feel terrible for having that thought come into my head because of course I want him to quit and be healthy. But I'm crying almost every day now. I'm just wondering if anyone can give me their experience or any advice.
Everything between us was so good before and I don't want to give up. I want to marry this man but I'm scared he'll never be the same person I fell in love with again. Someone give me some hope please. 😭😭😭