Half-siblings won't give up
Hi there. I'm just needing to vent and get advice from people who actually understand my situation and the feelings that come with it.
I have not seen or spoken to my father since I was 10 years old (we found out he had another name and family). He never looked back and only contacted me about 3 or 4 times to send a late birthday card with a few dollars in it. He never asked for visitation, never paid his child support, nothing. found out that he passed away about ten years later through a random Google search and seeing an obituary. I put it to bed and was finally able to move on.
A few years later, his adult daughter reached out to me and wanted to meet. She gave me some history, such as his being on hospice and explaining emeritus to them and aploogizibg for being a bad father. Honestly, what a knife to the heart. Not even on his deathbed could he do the right thing. Anyway, I apologized and explained that it was not in my best interest to do so and that I wanted to leave everything about him in my past. She vacant hurt and offended, which I understood, and tried several more times until I finally had to block her on social media. She created a fake profile and tried again so i stopped opening the messages and blocked again.
Fast forward to today and her sister, who has been a part of this conversation since day one and knows my stance just sent me a friend request. I will ignore it but the anxiety that gets stirred up everyone they reach out, and I have explained, starts all over again.
Any advice? I feel bad that they want something but it is not something I can give them. They are his family, not mine and he chose them, which I have dealt with, but this brings up all of those feelings of not being enough and abandonment all over again. I just wish they would respect and understand how many bad emotions this stirs up for me.