u/Easy_Radish5975

See whenever a situation comes where someone say something very disturbing to us and instantly we react with burst of emotions which spoils our mood or whole day sometimes we also regret about our doing we all think we are rational but the reality is different more than 95 percent of us are irrational reacting continuously to external and internal stimulus. There is no fault of ours ,our brain is structured in a way that the part of brain where reasoning and logic happens is apart and far from the part of brain where cognition happens means language processing happens so whenever we react to a stimulus instantly we are not reacting rationally we are reacting emotionally so every time when you feel overwhelm from a stimulus then take a pause let the logic and cognition combine then react in this case there are high chances that you will avoid worsening your mood and day .

TL;DR: the intelligent person is who ,who understand the exact motive and meaning of someones comment or act and rationally react to it .not the one who thinks he is right and his perspective is the only perspective, open your mind wide for new and creative solutions to a problem. ( comment your opinions friends )

(Suggestion to genz and millenniums for a healthy relationship i think it will help a lot. ),in every relationship whether it is of genz(16-29) or millenniums (29 -45)both participants expect that what efforts i am applying in this relationship or what values i am giving to other person in relationship he/she should give me same but this never happens and for some time one person tolerates but one day he also give up and they will have a argument and then break up .from surface if we observe the whole scenario then the first person who was applying more efforts and was giving more values seems right but actually no one is wrong and no one us right ,see every human connection is a combination of two behaviours/natures as every person's behaviour/nature is different then the efforts applied by each person in relationship will be different, but rational peoples will say both should apply equal efforts should give equal values they seems right but here is the catch actually a human connection is not a deal in which what one person gives same other person should give if we will treat our relationships as deals then the love ,pureness ,naturalness will vanish from relationship only conditions will left alone so in a relationship accept what values and efforts other person is giving never expect anything just keep giving how much you can give keep putting efforts how much you can keep giving them values ,surprises .

I hope you will have found this suggestion helpfull ,i can only suggest because no one has right to give order to someone to do this or that.

TL;DR: Relationships are not business deals. People show love and effort in different ways. Instead of expecting equal effort, appreciate what the other person gives and focus on giving your best without keeping score.