ENTP overthinking or valid intuition?
ENTP here and I’m confused why I’m still mentally stuck on an online connection that was never even an official relationship.
We’ve known each other for around 8 months now.
For the first 4–5 months, I genuinely thought the connection was emotionally honest and transparent. We both admitted we liked each other at one point, and he’s an INFJ, which honestly made me trust the emotional depth of the connection even more.
The issue is not cheating because technically we were never together. What’s bothering me is that while being emotionally close to me, he was also involved with someone else and I only realized it indirectly later. And When I asked him about her, he said there was “nothing sexual" between them, which somehow made the emotional intimacy feel even more confusing to me.
I think that’s the part I can’t process. If I genuinely care about someone, I naturally become transparent with them instead of hiding parallel emotional dynamics.
So now my brain keeps switching between:
“he technically did nothing wrong”
and
“the lack of transparency completely changed how I see the connection.”
Part of me thinks I am overthinking because there was no official commitment another part of me sees it as a genuine red flag because the emotional atmosphere felt very different from what I believed it was.
Do other ENTPs get mentally stuck more on inconsistencies and hidden emotional context than the actual relationship label itself?