Ketamine destroyed friendships, should we even try reaching out?
Hi everyone, I have a dilemma with my husband's (ex) friends. I (F32) and my husband (M32) have been together for many years. When we got married 3 years ago, very early on he developed a strong ketamine addiction. Within the first 2 years of our marriage. He went to rehab last year, and it's been about a year now he's been good.
Here's the point. When he was on ket and mixing other drugs.. his mood was very unstable and he lashed out on all his friends and family, making everyone distance themselves. He said some really hurtful things.
Since returning and becoming clean, no one's reached out, he has tried to meet up and explain or apologise. There is one in particular they have been friends since age 5 and every time my husband tried to meet him, he strings him along saying he's not ready to meet yet. He won't allow my husband to make plans either. It's hurting my him tremendously as he dearly misses his friends.
IMO I think this friend seems to be dragging him along. I feel he is waiting until after his wedding so he doesn't need to invite us to the wedding or him to the bux party. Either that or he just doesn't ever want to meet up and forgive him. I'm just not sure how to help? I did say I could reach out to this friend and try to explain on his behalf however he said no because he didn't want it to be forced.
Do you think after a year he is still interested in seeing him? Shouldn't he have meet up with my husband by now if they were best friends? I just feel if I was in that situation, I would give my best friend a shot.