u/Easy_Strain_5212

Hi everyone! Sorry to bother but would appreciate votes of confidence? I’m not even sure what I’m looking for honestly. So let’s go to the beginning. I met this guy on hinge and we hit it off so well, but took it naturally. We dated and then things got more serious and all of a sudden we are in a relationship. Two months maybe into the relationship he was showing me something on his phone and a notification popped up from some girl, I don’t remember what it was but def flirty. He said it was from a long time ago but my alerts were on. So about maybe 2 weeks later I go into his phone and discover yep he’s sexting women and telling them he’ll fly them out. He has a good excuse and even sends his mother on a mission to save it. It worked because I am dumb and was already in it. Another month later same thing and this guy has the audacity to say I’m being annoying basically. I communicate that this is not ok for me in a relationship and he says he’ll stop. I continued to go into the phone for checks and it was ok! Fast forward a few months later and I discover his recently deleted messages. Picking a girl for a price for a set amount of time. Another OF trans woman too who was incessantly texting him so he blocked her. When I saw all of that it was over and he proceeded to blame everything on me. He took my apartment which I split rent on, refused to send a bag things back even after I handled most of it, stole my bed, refused to pay me back, the works. Anyway it’s been almost 6 months since it’s been over and I’m so thankful I’m out but still reeling from it all - i was totally naive that people could be so false and dark. Any thoughts lol?