Am I being lazy & not pulling my weight?
I (25F), Partner (28M), Child (11months)
I work full time I leave at 8am (sometimes 7am if I have morning meetings) and get home around 6-6:30, i work 5 days a week sometimes weekends.
My partner hasn’t worked for the past 4months. We split the household bills 65/35 then I also pay activities / groceries / weekly cleaner and everything for baby
We have a child together & he’s enrolled to daycare full time. Mon-Fri 7:30am-5:30pm (he doesn’t stay for the full hours)
My partner does all the morning routine getting him to daycare ect then also does pick up. I cook dinner and do dishes while my partner does the bed time routine and I read a book and put baby to sleep.
We all do spend time together in the mornings and nights ect and on one of my days off but I will do a mummy day where I take baby out on my other day off and spend the entire day with just us.
My partner is not great at keeping on top of our household cleaning and the house gets very messy and i usually have to tidy because I hate mess, but lately I have really just given up due to being exhausted and i feel like he needs to pull more weight with the cleaning but then also feel guilty for saying that because he does the baby morning and night routine by himself
I’m just trying to figure out if I need to pull a lot more weight at home ect 😅 When we were both working I was a lot better and set in a routine but now I am growing envious of him for all the spare time he has. I have to put in a lot more energy into work taking on more hours as it’s majority of our income.
I have tried talking to him but he throws it back at me & says he’s busy keeping baby occupied when they’re home together and he get overwhelmed when I ask him to be more tidy….
So am I the one being lazy and not pulling enough weight around the household?