I'm going to crash soon.
My boy is going to be 9 months next week. We've never sleep trained. Currently I'm in the cycle of trying to lock him into two naps, he wakes up between 4-5am right now. DWT is minimum 6am that I've tried to get him to. I 'save' the nap with contact naps constantly.
He has never had a 4 hour wake window. He's typically 2, and we'll fight and struggle to 2.5 or 3. Sometimes it's only been an hour and he's already rubbing his eyes. Yawning. Red eyebrows. Fussy.
It's hard to have any kind of schedule or nap time when his wake windows are such a struggle. For the longest time he would go to bed at 5pm, wake up for 5-6am when he was 1-4 months, I can't specifically remember his nap times but it was 3-4 naps. At 8 months he then started getting earlier, and earlier. We've have split nights 4 days in a row with 2-3 hour wake window which he doesn't seem to struggle with in the middle of the night?
I don't even know what to do anymore. I'm exhausted. I'm out of solutions. We have a solid bedtime routine, bath, book, bottle. bed. He usually takes anywhere from 20-40 minutes to settle. Once he's in bed he'll sleep a couple hours, usually 3 and wake up wanting a bottle. He'll go back down after that and sleep till when he decides to wake up anywhere from 4-5am if we're lucky 530am. His bedtime use to be 5pm, we successfully shifted to 7pm for a few weeks. Now it's anywhere from 530-645 as he gets extremely fussy and irritable, yawning etc. even if he has a third or bridge nap at the end of the day.
His naps typically always stop at the 30-40 minute mark and I can usually save the nap to whatever length.
Today he was up at 4am, I contact napped until 6am. All sleep cues until 830, slept 1.5hrs from 830am-9, woke up, saved the nap with contact & slept till 10am. Was yawning, rubbing eyes fussy, at 11am and through till I put him down at 1220pm. I'm currently contact napping already.
Someone please help me.