u/Economy-Bar1967

Okay this is one of the weirdest things a classmate has ever told me and I still randomly remember it sometimes 😭

I had this classmate in college who was REALLY into BL. Like nonstop. Every day there’d be some BL edit, ship post, fanfic quote, “omg they’re so in love” type status on WhatsApp or Instagram. Nobody cared that much, we just knew that was her thing.

One day during lunch break our group was talking about weddings and relationships and somehow the conversation became a little unfiltered. Then out of nowhere she tells us this story.

She said there was a marriage happening near her house recently, and after all the wedding excitement and romantic atmosphere she started thinking about the newly married couple’s first night. According to her she got “weirdly turned on” from imagining it.

Then she casually added that she ended up kissing her elder sister that night.

Like bro… the table went DEAD silent 💀

No hesitation, she just said it like it was a completely normal confession. A couple people laughed because they thought she was joking, but she looked dead serious while saying it.

Till today I genuinely can’t tell if she was trying to shock us or if she just overshares without filters.

Do some people seriously get THAT comfortable talking about personal stuff or was my classmate just built different 😭

Edit - Elder sister is married now btw

Need honest women’s perspective because I can’t tell if I’m being insecure or if this behavior is actually crossing boundaries.

My girlfriend (let’s call her X) has a male best friend (Y). Last year on her birthday, he bought her a gift. At first she refused because they honestly weren’t even that close back then, and also because her parents are a bit orthodox about accepting gifts from male friends. Eventually she accepted it because he got emotional/sentimental about it.

But while accepting it, she clearly told him politely that she doesn’t want expensive/personal gifts like that again in the future.

This year, he again bought her a relatively expensive gift — related to something she really loves. She again refused to accept it. He kept insisting saying there was no refund and asking her to just take it.

What made me uncomfortable was that he also told her not to tell her parents (or even me) if that was the reason she was refusing it. That immediately felt off to me.

After she still refused, he became emotionally dramatic about it. A few days later he messaged her again saying things like “at least look at what I bought for you,” and started describing every single part of the gift like “this is your favourite thing, that’s why I chose this,” etc. It honestly felt emotionally pressuring.

Then after she still didn’t accept it, some days later he posted the gift on his Instagram story with a caption like “selling this below online price” or something similar. He never directly mentioned her, but obviously the context was there.

Another thing is that his dynamic with her feels emotionally intense in general. He ends up getting upset or having emotional reactions over really small things sometimes, and from my perspective it feels more emotionally attached than what I personally expect from a normal friendship. I know everyone has different friendship dynamics, so maybe I’m judging it wrongly.

To be clear, my girlfriend has been transparent with me throughout this and she did maintain her boundary, so my concern is less about her and more about whether this guy’s behavior sounds concerning from an outside perspective.

Women here — would you see this as someone who probably has feelings and is crossing boundaries emotionally, or am I reading too much into normal friendship behavior?