What do I do in my long term relationship?
Hey all.
Me and my girl have been together since senior year in highschool and we are almost 30 now.
I don’t know what I should do, as of the last 3-5 years the sexual nature of our relationship has came to a grinding halt, like bad. I’m talking maybe 1-3 times max a month.
We have been together since senior year, grade 11,12, and we have a house and animals together. We are engaged but no plans to fully marry anytime soon because the economy and housing (we want more stuff and a bigger better house lol). We are trying for kids but have had complications and are trying to work through it.
I am confused and conflicted because like I said we have sexual interactions 2-3 times a month MAYBE. And when we do it’s very vanilla, same thing every time, basic and bland so it’s meh in my opinion. The feeling is similar to watching a movie you’ve already seen a bunch of times.
My question is am I cooked here? Like I know she’s not seeing anybody on the side (unless she’s the top spy in the world) because I’ve thought maybe that’s the case and snooped which I know is wrong of me but everything is all Kocher there. We’re still young and I’m kind of terrified of this just being the rest of my life. I sometimes get approached by women if I’m out with the boys and it sucks because there is no intimacy and when I go out I will get pursued by other women and it makes me feel good about myself just to go home and get rejected no matter what I do. I make good money, I make sure everything is straight even if I have to work more and take care of whatever comes up. This is a good amount of time we have put into this but it’s like hard breaks on any type of affection and love in that sense. I’ve tried to convey this and have been told I’ve been too much about it and want that stuff too much. I feel like we aren’t doing anything sexual enough as adults personally but idk what to do since my whole adult life I’ve been with this girl.