MIL went crazy, and now acting like the victim after putting everyone through it. I just want some peace. AITAH?
So my MIL was upset my husband said she shouldnt sell her house last year. Then immediately after for no legitimate reason she stopped paying all her bills and let it go into foreclosure. The next day she tried to kill herself.
We helped her work through this for months. Then the more we found out, the more it didn’t make sense. We got the house out of foreclosure. She then silently sold the house and moved in with her friend. This whole situation has been completely traumatic and exhausting for my family.
Now we’re also moving. She wants to be involved and help us move, but I want to do this in peace. She has the personality that has to micro manage everything, and somehow make it about her. We’re moving this week and we work mutiple jobs and have a young child. She hasn’t texted/called me in months as she quietly listed the house for sale and didn’t tell us until she had an offer.
Now WE are moving this week and she hasn’t stopped texting me and was fishing today for our new address. My husband told her we don’t need her help with moving, but that hasn’t stopped the calls. Does this sound like traits of a narcissist? She also keeps continually suggesting to my husband that I should get a full time job and she can work from our new home and pick up my kid from school even though she lives 35 minutes away and is mentally unstable. I’m not allowing her to watch our kid right now at all anyway. So it feels like she’s trying to figure out a way to control our life now that she messed up hers and is probably bored without her house and the drama/trauma has settled.
Easter we both worked and she was insanely upset we didn’t make plans for her to come over. Then Mother’s Day came around, we both had work again but we made sure to take her out so she wouldn’t lose her shit again.
I for some reason feel bad ignoring her texts, but I’m truly busy and I really do not want her help with this big part of our life. Should I feel bad? Am I the bad guy for not wanting her help right now?
Sorry if any of this sounded bad. I’m just so exhausted at this point. Thanks if you took the time.