I don’t want to overreact but I don’t think this is ok
for context, I’m a older minor (ftm if that matters?) and I have been sexually abused (not in contact anymore). also because of ocd, as an 11 year old, I wouldn’t step out of the front door for months in fear of being raped. I also have had, and still have, frequent intrusive thoughts about sexual things. my mom knows ALL of this, despite never taking it very seriously.
About 7 months ago, my mom starting dating this guy, and now, sometimes when I come home for the week (mom and dad are divorced) I’ll come home to fetish gear. on the counter, in the bathroom, in plain sight in her room (which I am very much allowed in), etc. only ever one at a time, btw. and I will immediately have a panic attack. I will, clearly, get very mad and tell her to stop doing that, and it keeps happening. explicitly fetishistic lingerie, candles for wax play, clitoral stimulation gel, cleaning wipes for sex toys. I’m loosing my fucking mind. I can’t do this, I really cant. I’m not saying that IS sexual abuse, I’m just putting it here because there’s likeminded people (fellow s/a victims). i really just need some outside opinions on this.