u/Ecstatic-Fox-1255

I absolutely love my friends, im so glad that they are willing to hang out with me and actually enjoy being around me, but i often find that my friends tend to treat me as incompetent in some aspects of life (mainly social stuff, as an example, when going out they say "someone should stick with me because they are going to get lost" which is probably a joke but does kind of hurt and countless other examples)

I don't know what to say to that in the moment of it happening, I'll usually brush it off or stay silent, which is not the best alternative to it, i have tried to voice my opinion to some of them but it still hasn't changed much.

It's just a gripe i have, because i know I'm competent, and while yes i do struggle socially, i am able to take care of myself, and the contrast between how they say I'm smart, but then treating me as incompetent confuses me a lot.

What are you glad about in your life, can be absolutely anything im interested?

I feel so bad that i dont know how to properly react and comfort my friends when they are upset or angry or any other emotion that is out of there norm, i feel so bad because they are always there and know exactly what to say and how to make me feel better when im down but i don't know how to do the same, it feels like as ive gotten older(and im not even an adult) its only gotten harder to know how to comfort someone in times of distress :(

Im still in school, and was diagnosed with aspergers and adhd, take meds for adhd. For a while now ive been unable to concentrate or focus on a task for prolonged periods, this goes for school and my personal life, i find im unable to go through with projects i really really want to make, things i obsess over day and night, i fail when it comes to having to put in the effort of learning the skillset for it(for example, i want to really learn motion matching in unreal and create a project with it, but i loose all momentum with the extra things i need to learn), it feels so daunting and i feel if i can not achieve the result i envision then it is pointless.

Its been like this for a few years but now that i dont get the same enjoyment or validation out of my friends or academics its starting to get to me and my life genuinely feels like it is falling apart and it is the worst feeling ive felt, i don't know what to do to get out of this cycle, so im asking here to see if anyone has any potential advice on how to fix this problem so i can start enjoying myself a bit more, and feel like less of a failure to myself.

I recently started a new stimulant, vyvance on a decently high dose (50mg) after moving away from a different stimulant.

I don't exactly know how else to phrase it but in a sense i feel like im showing more autistic traits compared to when i am not on my medication, im more reactive towards sounds, i have less of a drive to talk and engage in a conversation with my friends, it feels harder to fit in with my friends in essence.

Is it common for this to happen (as ive read once or twice that others have had a similar experience) and how do you deal with it?

Before starting for context im 16M diagnoses with aspergers a few years ago and ADHD.

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Im asking this question as ive found that im in that situation now, its been like this for 2 years and ive fluctuated between 40-70% very on and off. Its started to get to me more and more with the fact that in two of my subjects (both relating to computers, an interest ive had since i was 9) getting solid 90s, and then i see me struggling to even pass in some subjects. It worries me because my future seems uncertain and i really hate that, has anyone else experienced something like this(as ive heard it's not uncommon) and did anyone find a way to help with this?

Every time I'm around my friends i feel like a completely different person, im so much more energetic, talk so much, overshare on everything, am irrational in my behaviour and cant articulate properly, i hate it so much, even if i dont want to act that way its really difficult to not, it almoast feels as if i ride a "high" when with my friends for a solid hour and then collapse and its repeated.

I feel like in the past few years my life has already started to fall apart, its really scary because i havent even reached adulthood yet.

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Ever since i started highschool a few years ago i put a lot more effort into my friends and social life, and its worked out well with me having a great group of people i like to be around and a smaller but better few people who i trust(although im growing a slight disdain towards some of my friends), but thats about where i feel my success end.

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My marks in school have gone down the gutter and only now is it catching up to me that the marks in getting are not good enough yet i find it really hard to study at all, not having motivation to or just not knowing how to study properly, ive also found it extremely difficult to engage in my intrests(that being computers, and complex systems in games etc), i want to make something with my interests that goes beyond research or watching a lot of videos on it, but again i dont have motivation to sit down and do it, im too easily distracted or find the task too monumental or dont want to put in the effort to learn the skills needed.

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This all caught up to me a month or so ago when i had a really bad burnout, its just really frustrating and demoralising to feel like the things that mean the most to me are falling apart and im not as good as i once was.

I dont really know if ive been overstimulated in recent memory, im able to deal with a lot of external stimuli and while its annoying, sometimes stressful(constant loud noise in class), ive never really had a meltdowns etc over those type of things before (worst ive felt in environments like class is like being tired, silent and frustrated), its confusing hearing of people talk about overstimulation and everything and i dont even know if even have those reactions to external stimuli(in recent memory)

Im in high school still, and got diagnosed with aspergers and adhd a while ago, its always been draining to spend a long time with friends, but recently its been worse, so much grumpier, sadder, silent etc,i dont exactly know what the cause could be but I feel its in part due to masking so much(too add on to this i have been having compulsions to do specific things in ways which take a lot of time and also become mentally draining), i have a good friend group at school, talk to them, am very energetic and social around them, and while i enjoy being with them, it feels very overwhelming later on in the day, thinking of it, i dont really know what im like not masking, its really sad in my eyes, i want to worry less about what others think of me and stop being so self conscious of myself(i use to never be like this up until highschool) and have school life be less draining because its affecting me in so many ways outside of school now

Sorry if a mess to read, best way i can put it.

I'm still in high school,got diagnosed with aspergers and adhd a while ago. This is mainly me ranting, but for such a long time I've had such highs when getting to school and seeing my friends i feel so happy im so sociable and everything feels great but then not even 3 hours later i feel either blank or sad and it often doesnt get better for the rest of the day(its become more noticeable and frequent since this year), it feels like a repeating cycle, happy to go to school, sad by the end and then there are times where sadness just lasts for weeks on end and i feel so tired and empty, and like there is a feeling in me that i cant find and it annoys me so bad, i just want to feel happy