None of my family is attending my baby shower
This fall, my husband and I are welcoming our first baby. I started planning the shower in spring in hopes of allowing more time for my out of state family to attend. I have older brothers, which I had little hope would attend, but my real disappointment comes from my dad. My mom died suddenly when I was a teenager. Every major milestone in my live is marked with the sadness that she won’t be there.
I keep a good relationship with my dad and depend on him to fill in parts of the hole left by her passing. Unfortunately, my dad is not my mom and his decisions this year have left me wondering if I need to distance myself. He treats me and my brothers the same and told me he needed to keep visits even between us. So this year he visited one brother for his son’s birthday and told me he would only becoming once to visit me.
He decided that it would be better to visit once the baby is here, rather than attend the shower. I was disappointed and felt embarrassed about throwing my own shower where not a single member of my family is coming because I know my mom would have never missed it. Either way, I accepted the decision and have been pressing him about scheduling a time to visit after baby is here.
Turns out he’s not sure if he can come at all now, because his vacation to Mexico is around the time he was thinking of visiting me. Every weekly call is filled with vague answers and I’m setting myself up for the let down of him not being here. It just makes me miss my mom even more. I’m not sure if it’s a messed up as I think it is or if these pregnancy hormones. Advice?