27M partner is struggling about whether we should stay together I, 26F am determined but want to know if anyone has had success with issues of commitment in partners?
For context, we have been together for quite a few years now, have gone through the death of a family member, mental health struggles, financial issues, the whole shabang.
He is a wonderful human being and we get along well, have similar values, etc.
I have always felt as maybe he hasn’t leaned on me enough in the relationship and recently he has been struggling.
Now he has these doubts in our relationship but cant pinpoint what they are just that he feels and is scared it’s not going to work out and 10 years down the line we’ll separate.
My understanding is that is life, that certainty is not something tangible and that relationships are choosing to be with that person and continuing to work on it with them. I do not know if he can have a perspective shift and just accept that doubts may always be there but love persists as long as you want it.
Just in case it crosses anyone’s mind I know he is not cheating.
Any advice? Any men who have been in a similar situation, what made you realize it was your person and you wanted to fight for it?