My boyfriend [26M] checked out my friend multiple times in front of me [25F].
My boyfriend and I have been together for years. We have a mutual friend couple we hang out with a lot. He gets along really well with the guy, and the girl and I have become close friends. It’s honestly hard to find genuine friendships worth keeping where I live, so this friendship means a lot to me.
I also want to add that I’m not generally an insecure or jealous person. We’re genuinely an attractive couple, and we both get hit on pretty often. I actually think compliments are flattering as long as they stay respectful and aren’t reciprocated inappropriately. That’s never really been an issue in our relationship before.
To set the scene: we were all hanging out one day in swimsuits. My boyfriend is really into the gym and cares a lot about his physique. The other couple also goes to the gym, and sometimes they all see each other there.
While we were hanging out, I kept catching my boyfriend sneaking looks at my friend’s ass. And before anyone twists this- this has NOTHING to do with her. She can wear whatever she wants. She’s beautiful, confident, works hard for her body, and she’s genuinely an amazing person. This is entirely about my boyfriend’s behavior.
I noticed him checking her out multiple times that day. A few days later I brought it up. At first he apologized and said, “I’m sorry, my judgment slipped, it won’t happen again.” But after we kept arguing, his story completely changed. Suddenly it became: “I only looked because her swimsuit was so revealing and disgusting. I couldn’t believe she’d wear something like that. It’s disrespectful to her boyfriend.”
That explanation makes zero sense to me. If he thought it was “gross,” why was he looking multiple times?
Now I feel like I’m going crazy because he keeps changing the narrative. Am I reading too much into this?