My fiancée seems to be playing some sort of one-sided psychosexual game with me and I don’t want it
Throwaway because my fiancée knows my main account.
My fiancée and I got engaged one month ago. For the most part it’s been amazing but there have been a couple of odd moments that have caught me off guard.
First, a few weeks back, we were having a playful argument in bed, and in response to something I said, she sneezed on my face without covering her mouth or anything. I was pretty shocked and said as much, but she kept insisting that this was a normal thing to do. We asked several friends about this and they were all also shocked by her conduct but she still feels like she was in the right to sneeze on me.
Fast forward to today. We’re eating some fried chicken on the porch and are having a nice and peaceful afternoon. Then, all of a sudden, she asks me “do you want to eat all of the scraps off of my plate, like a dog?” I look at her like she’s lost her mind, but she is insistent, saying “isn’t that something that you like.” I’m not sure if she means me specifically or men at large.
At this point I’m getting to be a bit concerned that she is trying to start some sort of BDSM dynamic in our relationship. I don’t really understand it because if anything, she’s the more submissive one in the bedroom. How do I let her know that I am not interested in being dommed, if that is indeed what she wants. Is there any compromise I can suggest? I don’t really want the sneezing or dog comparisons to be part of our sex life.
I did let her read this before I posted it and she just laughed at me.
Edit: thank you for the advice everyone. I have decided to break up with her 💔