AITA For expecting my husband to put in as much effort as I do.
Im a big fan of doing the little things to put a smile on my husband's face. I go out of my way to do so. I dont expect him to do for me as much as I do for him but every now and then it bothers me. The other day i was asking him what he wanted for dinner while he was at work and it was pulling teeth, he was like whatever you want is fine. I kinda made a big fuss because for once I just want him to tell me what he wants. He says he doesn't want to bother me. Wtf? So meanwhile this is all happening its around lunch. Here i am trying to be considerate about his wants and then I realize he can't even be bothered to invite me to lunch or ask me if i want to come with him to lunch. The company we work for has an open kitchen and provides meals for us so we dont pay. If I dont reach out to him while he is at work, I won't hear from him at all. That bothers me to. He is on his phone constantly but is to busy to just check on me to say hi. We are in the process of applying for his green card and amoung all the information they want they also want to see keepsakes and mementos to verify our relationship is valid. I dont have any from him. When I noticed it made me sad. Whenever I bring it up to him that I can't always be the only one putting in effort my repeated attempts get dismissed. He essentially gets mad at me for being mad at him. My feelings needs wants get completely disregarded and im the problem because he sees no error in his ways. This morning I got up before he went to work made him breakfast and he told me he would message me around lunch so we could go together. He never did. It hurt my feelings. So when I express that to him he told me you slept all days anyways.....which wasn't true but I did sit by my phone waiting for him to message me or even remember I exist. I got upset and threw a pillow at him because while trying to explain to him that it makes me upset he started laughing at me and mocking me and now im the problem because i exploaded and raised my voice and threw a pillow at him. So now he is mad me for being mad at him. AITA?