u/EducationalFix8295

Seeing Ravi Mohan(Jayam ravi) break down in front of the media recently honestly hit me harder than I expected. A lot of people are already trolling him but some of the things he said about being controlled reminded me way too much of my own past relationship.

I was in a relationship with someone who had narcissistic traits, and it was exhausting. She wanted control over every aspect of my life. She would get upset over who I talked to, wanted me on calls or video calls constantly and if I slept a little extra on weekends and missed a call, it would become a huge issue. If I had to leave a call midway or hang up for something important, another fight.

I constantly felt like I had to monitor my behavior. I was expected to check in visually during video calls, accompany her everywhere and never really say no to anything she wanted. Boundaries didn’t exist. And whenever there was even a small inconvenience, she’d block me or give me the silent treatment without explaining what I even did wrong.

The worst part was how unpredictable everything felt. Talking to her was like walking on eggshells. Anything could suddenly offend her. And in front of others, she would put on this dramatic show of being deeply hurt because of me while I’d end up looking like the bad guy or a clown.

That’s what people don’t understand sometimes about narcissistic dynamics. A lot of them will go to extreme lengths to protect their image publicly, while the victim slowly loses confidence, self worth and credibility in front of everyone else.

Not saying anyone is perfect and obviously none of us know the full truth behind celebrity relationships. But hearing him speak brought back a lot of memories

So my friend met with an accident and we are struggling to pay the hospital bill. We have pooled in all our money but still are short of 6k. Is there any way I can make 3k at the earliest?

1. Why did the Indian Embassy in Faraha help a traitor like Daniel? Even if the ambassador was helping him in his personal capacity, they were still using embassy resources.

2. Why did Michael Devassy, a man with both military and tech background, rent a car that would obviously have a tracker in it? Even old Col. Rahim knew about that, so how did Michael not think of it?

3. How did Rahim know about Olive 12C, Darshana’s apartment? We can just assume that KuBo randomly told him that during one of their interactions (another case of convenient writing)

4. In the car scene, Michael asks Rahim how he lost his leg. But the same Michael is seen in the flashbacks where Daniel is helping Rahim get used to his prosthetic leg. Michael was literally standing there watching them and smiling. Even if we assume they never interacted much, shouldn’t he know about such a major incident if he was there?

I don’t know why some people are acting like this movie is some misunderstood masterclass. This movie was ass.

It starts off well, but the quality graph keeps dropping every 10-20 minutes. They couldn’t maintain the urgency or do justice to the world-building they set up in the first half. There was no payoff.

Most of the writing felt convenient and lacked flow.

The major issue with this movie was the lack of emotional connection. The stakes were neither personal nor large-scale. They could’ve made it about national security, or made it personal through the girl’s case and everyone trying to protect her, but they fumbled both possibilities.

The villains were lame too. I heard Mahesh say that FaFa’s character became a villain because of his troubled childhood, but even after the reveal, I felt nothing. I understood why he was shouting all the time, and I had no issue with that, but the villains were still weak.

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I don’t even know where to start. I just feel tired.

Since around 2019, my life has basically been the same cycle over and over again. I plan, I tell myself “this time I’ll fix everything,” I start… and then I just freeze. Not laziness. Not “I don’t care.” I want to do things. I just can’t seem to start or keep going.

I watch everyone around me move forward. Jobs, degrees, masters, relationships, trips, just… life happening. And I’m here, stuck in the same place mentally, feeling like time is passing but I’m not.

I’ve tried different approaches. Coaching, plans, schedules, motivation, discipline… nothing seems to stick. It’s like my brain just shuts down when things get real. And the worst part is nobody really understands it. From the outside it just looks like I’m wasting time.

Now I’m at a point where I feel like I’ve missed out on life itself. I haven’t enjoyed anything properly. No trips, no proper hangouts, nothing that actually feels like living. And when I think about the future, it just feels like more of the same loop.

I’m not even sure what I want anymore. I just know I don’t want to keep feeling like this.

Has anyone else been stuck like this for years and actually managed to get out? What did you do differently?

I’m not looking for motivation. I just want to understand if this is fixable.

Yes i have adhd, no i am not looking for sympathy because reddit support and sympathy is not going to help me in this cruel world. Just want to know if i can fix it and if I have any hope or reasons to live this shitty life which i dont want