My husband and best friend had an affair
So, obviously the post head speaks for itself. But my husband of almost 8 years engaged in an emotional and physical affair with my bestfriend while I was dealing with a family emergency..and we also were living with his parents. We split up and during that timeframe we were split it had come out that they were emotionally connecting. But denied heavily of anything else. I had my suspicions but what can you do. We ended up reconciling and I spent the last year in heavy turmoil while also working heavily on myself as my mental health was a big reason he used for us to split to be begin with. We had another kiddo. We worked on us for over a year…with the reasoning for us splitting to begin with being that my mental health and his mental health drove us apart along with our extreme living situation. And then my bestfriends ex reached out to me to inform me of texts he found that proved it was a physical relationship…and not only that but it started happening when I was out of town for said family emergency...before any talks of divorce or anything happened. I left for my family emergency and things were pretty okay in my eyes. Then I left and things went south so fast. Now I obviously know why. My issue is we worked on our marriage for an entire year on a lie…rebuilt my life moved our family (we now have four kids all together) back together. And now I find out it wasn’t me that caused the divide…but that he was planning an entire life with not only a woman but my best friend…they were planning to stay secret for a long time before telling me they were a couple. And now even after all this I can’t decide what my next move should be. I have so many little lives to think about. But I also have to think about how I feel. I’m unsure I’ll ever fully get over it. Day to day life is so normal and good but any time a thought creeps in my head goes crazy with it. I love the man and I can tell he’s remorseful of the entire thing looking back at it now. I just don’t know what to do in the end. We have so many different people this thing effects. And it’s so unfair I was put in this position after mending our life back together instead of having all the pieces to begin with.