AITA for being mad at my boyfriend about a cat
Hey guys, I was just wondering if this is something to be reasonably mad at. It all started two days ago when me and my boyfriend were laughing around the morning and the topic somehow devolved into cats. His pet Guinea pig got killed by a cat when he was a kid, and he was mad. Obviously he went to far and expressed how he wanted to stab the cat and kill the cat but I started crying. We initially talked about how it made me feel uncomfortable and everything was going good until he texted me how i was being a hypocrite and saying how wanting to kill a cat wasnt a big deal.
I mean technically i kinda was, because there was this guy who did one of my bestfriends dirty and i tell him he should killhimself- which in my part was very wrong and i get how he would get mad. However I did take accountability and apologize while still expressing what he said made me feel uncomfortable and said saying both things are very bad and we should look back. Then things started escalating really quickly, because what was me taking accountability and getting his pov while expressing mine, he starts sending messages that are aggressive to the point he cant control his anger.
Then it devolved into a back and forth where i told him i got his pov and apologized for being a hypocrite but he missed the entire point and is now trying to make it seem like it’s entirely my fault. Now that i’ve expressed stuff like this, he’s now saying “you wanna talk about red flags- i notice you have wandering eyes” not even going on topic at all to the current situation. Mind you, I never once even dared to talk to other guys or look at people from the past i used to talk to or like. I’m just wondering if i over reacted, because I can get both sides but i dont think he gets mine. Much advice would be appreciated thanks :)