Did I get love bombed?
Hello everyone I’m in desperate need for help because I think I’m going mad so if anyone has had the same experience please help a girl out.
A guy added me on instagram and we started texting for 4 days straight. One night I called him because he seemed to have the same humor as me so I thought I’ve found a friend. He doesn’t live in my city so he said that the next day he would come to meet me and I’ve felt bad because we are “distant” as it takes him almost an hour to come and visit me.
Two weeks ago, it was a Wednesday, I went for a coffee with him, never thought much about it as I was not looking to date anyone at the moment as I still have trauma from my last relationship (long story short my ex boyfriend was really toxic, manipulative and cheated on me).
We got the coffee, chit chat a little bit but nothing special. I went home and didn’t really think much of it. On Friday he asked me out again but I wasn’t really in a mood to hang out with anyone but as he insisted I’ve said yes. We went for a walk, sat down in a bar, drunk juicy and talked about life for almost three hours, he took me to Mc Donald’s and he bought me ice cream. I was really happy about it as I’ve noticed that maybe he liked me. The next day he asked me out again, he took me on a date, we went for coffee near the beach and again hours flew by fast. That night I’ve said to him that I had to meet my girlfriends for a drink but if he wanted that he could wait for me so when I finished we could meet up again. He said he would and he did. He picked me up after 2.5h of waiting, we want again on the beach, we talked and look at the starts. On Monday we’ve seen each other again and that night we kissed. He even gave me his favorite hoodie because I was feeling cold. On Tuesday he picked me up from work, we went on a date and he asked me to be his girlfriend. I felt like dreaming, someone was finally treating me “right”. On Wednesday we went for a drink and stayed together at the beach until 4 in the morning. We cuddled and kissed the whole time. And then, something switched. The next day we haven’t seen each other. On Friday he came to get a coffee with me in the morning. We’ve been together for online an hour and he drove me to work. The next day silence. He was playing hot and cold, he would respond but only after a few hours. That night was the last time I’ve seen him. We kissed, he said goodnight, I’ve waited for him to come home and he texted me that we would see each other tomorrow when we woke up.
He ghosted me. I asked him is everything ok, did I maybe do something wrong and he said that he was just thinking about cutting things off. I was shocked. Not one time I’ve thought that this would come to an end. When I’ve asked him why did he do all of this, why wasting my time he said “because I can”. I’ve cried and felt horrible. That same night he called me and asked me if we could see each other again for a friendly drink. I’ve said that I would let him now. Silence. I still have his hoodie and until today he didn’t reach out. Today the texted me “hey, where are you?” And I’ve said that I’m at home, that I told him that he could come pick up the hoodie at my work place because that’s where I’m keeping it. He said that he would text me next week to ask me when can he come by so my coworker can lend him back the hoodie as I’m going on holiday and won’t be there. He deleted me off Snapchat but he’s still keeping me on my instagram so I’m wondering what is all of this? Some kind of game?
Does anyone have a clue on why did he switch? I need answers which he won’t give me so I was wondering if anyone went through something similar :(