Looking for advice
My partner of 7 years is addicted to porn. For many years at the beginning we had a wonderful sex life and very actively in love. There were random porn moments but never seen it as a concern as we were still very actively having sex. Over the last couple years I’ve noticed we have less and less sex. He only really wants to have sex when he’s loaded drunk which I don’t enjoy and I have expressed that. I’m also initiating it and often when I try to be sexual he pulls away (which he never did before) he’s also much less affectionate than before barely kissing me or anything. My concern was that he was cheating so I went through his phone and found he’s been watching porn almost every single day. I of course confronted him. He told me I was the problem because I shouldn’t have snopped and broken his privacy. I tried to explain I thought he was cheating and he still said it doesn’t matter. He claims he doesn’t always masturbate sometimes he just watches it which confuses me even more as he has a ready and able woman right beside him. On top of this there was a time years ago the “porn” I found him looking at a site that is for prostitutes locally he claims he never did anything he was using it as porn and I re-brought this up and he said he liked that there was a chance he could see, run in to, or be with these women verse porn stars who that would never happen with which for me is so much more intimate then just watching porn. Now for my most concerning point one of the sections of porn he watches quiet often is family porn (step parents, step kids) kinda stuff (also no judgement at all here just processing my thoughts) we have a young daughter whom we adopted meaning not biological so this kind of triggered me if this is what he’s into should I be concerned or worried for our daughter in the future. I never in a million years would have EVER had those thoughts until I seen what kind of porn he was watching. I did bring this up and he lost his shit on me and tried to claim he was looking for milf porn (but I looked and it has its own heading so he lied). Please help me. I need to know if I’m overreacting or if I’m most likely right. I can’t stop crying, I can’t sleep, I can’t eat.