u/Educational_Mine_376

3 weeks ago a new LO appeared. I thought this time I could stop it completely but instead it’s just moving slower than before. The intensity is lower, the pain is less, but it’s still running.
I’ve been doing the work : labeling it, not feeding the cycle, staying busy, building a real life. And honestly it’s better than before. But “better” and “done” aren’t the same thing.
So I’m curious has anyone here actually tried therapy specifically for limerence? Not just general therapy but someone who understood the pattern and helped you get to the root of it?
Did it actually move the needle or did you find other things more useful?

My limerence started when I was 14. I’m 25 now. Person after person, loop after another, it never stopped.
When I finally saw a therapist two years ago he told me it was OCD. I searched everywhere, talked to people, found nothing similar to what I was experiencing. Then I found the term limerence and reading your posts made me realize ,this is exactly what I feel.
My LOs are always people around me with strong personalities, people others naturally gravitate toward. I’ve never been in a relationship with any of them. But when a new loop starts, I look back at the previous LO and can’t understand what I ever saw in them. The delusion just evaporates.
I had a 5 month break. Then a new LO appeared ,my team lead at work. The pattern is obvious now: someone with a strong personality who has power over me.
But this time is different. After that break I realized how much this has cost me. So I decided to share my story here.
Your posts helped me find the name for what I’ve been living. I’m in the healing process now. When I find what actually works I won’t hesitate to share it.
You are not alone.