Reality check: some of you are with partners who aren’t respecting you
It’s been officially two months since I broke up with my last partner.
I was obsessed with the idea he was still in love with his ex. The entire relationship I genuinely felt like I was acting crazy and didn't know why it was something I was so fixated over.
Two months later | look back on the relationship and realise that he was actually mentioning his ex a ridiculous amount and giving me a lot of unnecessary details about their relationship.
All in all there was a lot of red flags and I started to be kinder to myself because | realised that how he was acting was not normal and was actually fuelling my retroactive jealously.
I've been speaking to this new boy for about a month now and past relations have pretty much never been mentioned between us. Therefore I've not really had anything trigger my retroactive jealously.
I personally think that yes retroactive jealously will always somewhat affect you but it is also important to choose partners who understand your boundaries and don't purposefully do anything to fuel your rj.
I see a lot of posts on this thread where peoples partners are over sharing and crossing boundaries.
Some of these posts aren’t even retroactive jealously… they’re just people’s partners being blatantly disrespectful 😬 (sorry to break it to you).
Retroactive jealousy fuelled by being with the wrong person. Period.