AITAH for quitting my job without preparing my employers?
I quit my job the other day, after 12 years of working here. It's a very small business and they considered me part of the family. In September we have a holiday planned that they invited me to, all expenses paid. Two weeks ago I joined my employer to a funeral of a close friend. However, I did not feel comfortable sharing with them that I was looking for a different job, because of this awkward relationship. I like to separate the work relationship from the friendship. However, I knew deep down they are not able to do that.
I got a new job and resigned the next day. I still have to stay here for 6 weeks. When I told them it was like a bomb dropped. Neither of my employers want to talk to me anymore. They are taking this VERY personal and wanted me to tell them sooner and are openly blaming me for letting them down. There has been swearing, crying and a lot of accusations. I've been told to clean my desk and remove all my personal things. They are having their breaks in a seperate room now.
I never liked this job but I liked the people and I did A LOT for them even outside this job. I'm underpaid, overqualified and often alone at a grey office. I didn't complain about that but at some point I was just exploring what's out there for me, and I wanted to do that by myself and not be influenced by other people. My new job is everything I ever wanted and a fantastic opportunity. I was hoping a part of them would be happy for me but it doesn't seem like it. They said they are disappointed in me, feel betrayed and like we are no real friends. These are going to be six loooooooong weeks.
I can't decide if I'm the asshole in this. At work, they are clearly saying that I am. My friends say that I'm not. I need some unbiased opinions and any advice or experience would be much appreciated!