I’m having a hard time to choose
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Hi! I’m currently in a relationship that’s been going on for 2 years now, and honestly, he’s everything I’ve ever wanted. For the first time in my life, I found someone who truly respects me, cherishes me, and makes me feel loved in the healthiest way possible. I know I really love him, and he deserves nothing but the best.
I’m about to finish my studies and will probably start working in a few months. Recently, my parents and I have been talking about me working overseas since they’re already there. It’s a huge opportunity, and I can’t help but think about how much it could help my future and my family’s situation as well.
At the same time, my boyfriend wants to pursue medicine after graduation, and I know that’s genuinely his passion. I admire him so much for that. But as much as I love him, medicine isn’t the path I want for myself. I also really want to start helping my parents as soon as possible, and going into medicine would mean studying for another 5–6 years.
We’ve already talked about everything, and we both know that long distance would be really hard for us. We basically did everything together throughout college — we grew side by side in almost every part of our lives. He told me he understands why I might have to leave, but deep down I feel like he also feels that I’m choosing a different future over him.
And honestly, that thought breaks my heart.
Sometimes I feel selfish because he would be the one staying behind and waiting for me. I worry that maybe he deserves someone who can physically be there for him while he chases his dream. I don’t want him to feel tied down by my decision or like he has to put his life on hold because of me.
I just don’t know what the right thing to do is anymore.
Do I stay? Or do I leave and take the opportunity?