Hi everyone! I’ve reached a point where I feel pretty lost regarding my personality, and I really need some outside perspective. Recently, out of curiosity, I had my family and my boyfriend take personality tests for me (all kinds, including Sakinorva) to see how they perceive me. The thing is, everyone sees a slightly different facet of me. This has me questioning whether I’m not being 100% true to myself or if it’s just their different perspectives.

To give you some context, here is a quick breakdown of who I am and the dilemma I'm facing:

Logic & Expression

• Don't play with my logic: It deeply frustrates me when people contradict facts that I am seeing and verifying with my own eyes, or when they insist on solutions based purely on "toxic positivity" after I've already analyzed the situation.
• Guarded but socially functional: I’m not a robot. I can carry a conversation, smile, and joke if needed, but I genuinely dislike meeting new people. In social settings, I will look for the most isolated corner to avoid socializing. I only truly relax and open up around my inner circle (my family and boyfriend).
• Internal emotional processing: I am utterly terrible at expressing how I feel on the spot; I need to sort out my emotions in a journal first. I absolutely HATE crying in front of others because it makes me feel weak.

Career Limbo

I hold a master's degree in science and I love the field, but I’ve realized that teaching teenagers is not for me. I LOVE teaching when the group is genuinely interested, but the immaturity, disrespect, and apathy stress me out. I don't feel any need to tolerate that, so I am planning to transition into the industry, hoping to find a proactive environment with continuous learning.

Contradictions & Interests

• Beliefs: I am not religious; in fact, I hate the church and find it pathetic how they manipulate people through guilt. I always lean toward logic, yet I admit there's a small part of me that finds comfort or intrigue in the concept of "destiny" or someone else's "will."
• Interests: I am learning to play the violin, and I love classical music, ballet, and classic literature.

The Verdict:

• My family is torn between: ISTP, ISTJ, and INTP.
• My boyfriend is certain I am: INTJ.

What do you think? Does this sound like a specific type (maybe IxTx) going through a major case of career burnout? I’d love to read your theories and advice! One more thing, please try to explain your arguments, thank you