AITA for refusing to pay a surprise "drinks bill" sent 10 days after a wedding?
I (27f) was a bridesmaid at a close friend's wedding in the south of France last month. Ten other friends, my partner, and I all travelled 12+ hours to be there. (disclaimer: we are all Europe based it was just a very remote location)
The night before, there was a rehearsal dinner. We were told upfront it would be a set cost of €45pp for the meal.
When we arrived, wine and water were already on the table and being poured openly by waiters, so naturally we drank some. We paid our €45 and left, assuming that covered everything since nothing was said otherwise.
The next day, at the drinks reception after the ceremony, drinks were hard to find and the "canapés" were just salami and cut baguette. When the catered food came out, allergies hadn't been accounted for, so several people in our group couldn't really eat anything.
Day 2 was billed as a "bring your own food bbq" at the same venue. We bought food for it, then heard nothing all day and ended up driving around the south of France on a closed Sunday trying to find anywhere open for dinner.
My partner and I also gave a generous cash wedding gift.
Then, 10 days after the wedding, the bride sent a group message saying the rehearsal dinner drinks hadn't actually been included, her mum had personally covered the whole bar tab, and now every guest was being charged for water and wine via her mum's Revolut.
My dilemma: I understand mistakes happen and I don't want her mum out of pocket, but we were never told the drinks weren't included, we already paid what we were quoted, and we'd all spent a lot just to be there, on top of the gift.
AITA for refusing to pay this after the fact?