r/aitaweddings

One of my oldest friends, Hannah, is getting married next weekend in a tiny town. There's only one hotel within 30 minutes of the venue, and Hannah set up a block of 25 rooms. I booked mine the day the invitation came in January.

On Sunday Hannah called me. Her aunt Gloria never booked a room, and now the hotel is full. Hannah asked if I'd give mine up because I'm "young and can drive," and there's a motel about 40 minutes away.

That would mean driving dark two-lane country roads after midnight, by myself, in a car I'm not super comfortable driving at night. I explained that and said I'd love to help find Gloria something else.

I spent my lunch break calling around and found a bed and breakfast 15 minutes from the venue with one room left. I sent Hannah the link right away. Gloria said it was too expensive, $210 a night compared to $160 at the hotel.

Hannah texted me last night that she's "disappointed" and that family should come first at a wedding. I get that Gloria's her aunt. But I planned ahead and Gloria didn't, and I found her an option that's closer than the motel they wanted me to take.

So am I being selfish about a hotel room?

TL;DR: The bride's aunt forgot to book and the bride wants me to give up the room I reserved in January and drive 40 minutes at night. I found the aunt a closer B&B instead.

My sister and her fiance are getting married in May 2027. They will have been engaged for over 3 years. I proposed to my fiancée - few weeks ago and we have already found a venue and set a wedding date in September 2027. (We are all in our 30s, don’t think this is relevant tho). We announced this at a family dinner and my mother says I’m stealing my sister’s thunder.

There are a couple of practical reasons why we want to get married next year rather than waiting longer, but it isn’t like we have set our wedding for the same month so I don’t feel like we should have to justify our decision. AITA?

EDIT: the distance between her wedding and ours is about 2 hours and most of our family live in between. There are actually only c25 shared guests (of c100) who would be at both weddings. Our venue has multiple cheap hotels very close but it’s also very achievable for most of our family to drive back the same night. Both weddings are on a Saturday so I don’t think anyone has to book time off either.

EDIT 2: two of our wedding guests have their birthday on the day and we are getting them a cake and going to make a moment of it. I do not worry about sharing thunder!

One of my bridesmaids has been one of my closest friends for years.

The problem is that over the last few months, her boyfriend has made several jokes about my wedding being " too expensive" and how my fiancé and I are wasting for "one day". I ignored it because everyone is entitled to their opinion and I didn't want unnecessary drama.
Last weekend we were all together and he started again. This time he joked that he was mostly for the free food and alcohol and said he'd probably leave early because weddings are boring anyway.

I laughed awkwardly at first, but then he kept going and asked how much we were spending. When I refused to tell him, he said something like, " Whatever it is, you'll probably regret it when you could've used that money for something useful."

That one actually hurt.

My fiancé and I have been saving for this ourselves. We haven't asked anyone to pay for our wedding and we've spent months planning something that means a lot to us.

Later, I told my friend privately that I didn't really feel comfortable having him there anymore. I said I still absolutely wanted her there, but I didn't want to spend our wedding day wondering if someone sitting there was secretly mocking everything we had worked.

She got really upset and said I was basically forcing her to choose between being my bridesmaid and her boyfriend. She said his comments were just jokes and that I was taking them personally because I'm stressed about the wedding.

Now she's considering dropping out completely.

That honestly devastated me. I never wanted to lose a close friend over this, and part of me wonder if I should just tolerate him for one day to keep the peace.

But another part of me feels like I've spent months ignoring disrespect just because I didn't want to be seen as difficult bride.

AITA for taking away his invitation ?

TL;DR: My bridesmaid's boyfriend repeatedly mocks our wedding and how much we're spending on it. After he said we'd probably regret wasting the money, I told my friend I no longer felt comfortable having him there. She now says she may drop out of the wedding.

I'm not sure if this is the right community to post in, but its wedding themed, kindly bear with me.

My bestfriend Ava who I know since middle school got married recently. I will come back to this.

I had a male friend Chad who is an event planner, when I went to his city to meet him last year, he got me drunk and tried to molest me. This happened in his apartment, when I tried to book uber back to my hotel resisting him, he snatched the phone away. I was drunk,but I panicked so badly. Somehow i escaped from there.

When I felt I was in danger, it was like my body gave my awareness back, even though I was drunk.

I returned to my hotel I had booked in that city and the first call was to my best friend Ava. We talked things through and I felt little at ease.

I was shocked at what Chad did. I trusted him enough to drink with him alone. I thought I knew him. I cut off all contact immediately even though the next day he started apologising to me.

Anyways, 4 months later, my best friend Ava tells me she hired Chad as event planner for her wedding. I was shocked to say the least.

She asked me do I mind.

Do I mind? How can she even ask me that? I say no and pretend to be okay with it since her mom is Ill and she somehow is convinced that he the best planner of the century.

I was so hurt but at the same time i was second guessing myself if I was allowed to be hurt. I felt betrayed by her. I felt betrayed by Chad too. It was like i lost two friends. I was so angry at him for ruining our friendship. I was angry at him for being a monster masquerading as a gentleman.

If I said I have a problem with it, I was scared she would resent me for ruining her wedding. I planned her bachelorette, showed up to all bridesmaids duties. Avoided him at the wedding at all costs. I waited until her honeymoon was over and then I told her I no longer want to be her friend. She said I'm making her wedding all about me etc etc.

I told her wedding is done, honeymoon is done, she got what she wanted, i DIDNOT ruin her wedding. I even waited until her honeymoon is over to end things. But I cannot forgive her. So AITA?

I (27F) have always struggled with my relationship with my mother. I do genuinely appreciate everything she has done for me. She raised me as a single mother for a while before she met my stepdad, put me through private school and a private university, and invested in singing/music lessons for me when I was younger. I know she sacrificed a lot for me, and I don't take that for granted.

However, when I went to college, our relationship really started to change. I began noticing how much she struggled with control and respecting boundaries. We went through some very difficult years during college, which unfortunately contributed to me making some very poor relationship choices. Eventually, I moved back home after getting divorced at 21.

After I moved to a different state, things between my mom and I changed again. Some things got better, while other things became more difficult.
I eventually met my now-fiancé, and he has genuinely been one of the best things that has ever happened to me. He has been my rock, supported me through some very difficult things, and encouraged me to grow in so many areas of my life. I love him very much, and we are getting married in November 2027.
This past July, my fiancé and I hosted our engagement party at our house. Family flew in, and overall we had a great time. However, during that visit, my mother once again tested boundaries, which unfortunately isn't unusual when my side of the family comes to visit.

She makes disrespectful comments, gives unsolicited opinions, and sometimes shows up at our house without warning.For example, on the morning of my wedding dress shopping appointment, she showed up at our house early in the morning completely unannounced. She didn't call beforehand. She literally pulled into our driveway, texted me asking if I was awake, and knocked on our front door.
My fiancé and I were both upset by this, but ultimately brushed it off and continued with the day. I did mention it to my stepdad afterward, but he generally doesn't correct her behavior because he doesn't want to get involved or upset the peace.
I've tried very hard to give my mom the benefit of the doubt and maintain our relationship despite these issues.

But yesterday, something happened that has made me seriously question whether I even want a relationship with her moving forward.
My mom called me and asked if we had officially finalized our wedding date. I told her that we had. She then told me she planned on staying for **8 days during our wedding week** so she could "help us finalize everything for the wedding."
The thing is, I had already told her a couple of weeks ago **not to book accommodations yet** because my fiancé and I are meeting with our wedding planner in October and don't even know what our final plans will look like.I had also specifically asked her that, whenever she did book something, she please try to find somewhere between our venue and our house so that it would be convenient if we needed to go back and forth.

Instead, yesterday she told me she had already booked an Airbnb **more than a year in advance**, and it is only a few minutes from our house.
I was extremely frustrated and asked why she chose that location. She told me it was the only place that could accommodate "everyone."
I asked her who "everyone" was because as far as I knew, the people coming with her were supposed to be my mom, stepdad, and sister.
Apparently she also included my sister's boyfriend, my stepdad's best friend, and his wife.

I completely lost it.

We haven't even sent out save-the-dates yet. We are planning a relatively small wedding of **no more than 50 people**, and I don't even know yet if some of these people are going to be invited.
When I told her this, she became angry and told me I was being selfish and that **"this is her trip too."**
I tried explaining that this is exactly the type of boundary crossing I've been talking about for years. She repeatedly denied that she crosses my boundaries.I even told her that I have receipts/messages that demonstrate some of the things I'm talking about, but she continued to deny it.
At that point, I told her I needed to get off the phone because I didn't want the conversation to become even more disrespectful or emotional. We clearly weren't getting anywhere.Before I could get off the phone, she pulled out the classic **"after everything I've done for you"** line.

I hung up.

My stepdad immediately called me afterward and told me it was disrespectful for me to hang up on my mother. I told him, again, that I wasn't willing to have that conversation while I was that emotional and needed some space before things escalated further.
Now I'm sitting here wondering what the hell I'm supposed to do.

I don't want my wedding to become a week-long family vacation that my mother has planned without me. I don't want additional people invited to my wedding because she decided they should come. And I definitely don't want to spend the week of my wedding feeling like I have to manage my mother's expectations and boundaries instead of enjoying this incredibly important moment with my fiancé.

At this point, I'm honestly questioning whether I even want my mother at my wedding at all, or whether I want to continue having a relationship with her.
I know she's done a lot for me throughout my life, and I'm grateful for those things. But I'm starting to realize that gratitude doesn't necessarily mean I have to accept behavior that makes me uncomfortable or allows someone else to take control of major decisions in my life.

So, Reddit, **AITA for considering kicking my mother out of my wedding and potentially cutting her off after this? Or am I overreacting?**

My aunt (26F) is getting married this summer, and she decided to have a child-free wedding. This still applies to me (17F), and it honestly doesn't bother me, seeing as it's her wedding and she can invite whoever she wants.

The issue is that four of my cousins — two of whom are my aunt's children — are currently at an age when they would require supervision. I love my cousins, but I don't really like young children, and I don't feel comfortable watching them for long periods of time. My aunt has repeatedly told me that it is extremely difficult for her to find a babysitter and that watching the kids for a few days is the least I can do, considering I am not attending the wedding. However, when I say I would be willing to come to the wedding, she says that it's child-free and she can't bend the rules for me. When I refused to watch the kids, she spoke to my mom about it, saying that I should support my family. My mom took my side, saying that if she didn't want to include me in the wedding because I was a child, she didn't get to give me the responsibilities of an adult. My aunt and a few other family members believe that I should watch the kids, but I honestly feel like I was intentionally excluded, not because of my age, but because my aunt wanted a free babysitter, so AITA?

Hey, so I just wanted peoples thoughts on this situation.. my Ex partner whom I was with 11 years and share 3 children with is getting married today. Me and him have been split around 6 years and I don’t feel anything for him anymore. He moved on, I’m still single, the relationship was not good for me and it took me a long time to get myself in a good mindset and feel good emotionally again. I still have days of insecurity and wonder if I ever will find love again, but I’m doing ok. I have a best friend who saw first hand the things I went through in that relationship, well anyways fast forward to today.. my ex partners new bride to be is a member of my best friends partner, her boyfriend is the brides cousin. My best friend is going to the wedding even though she can’t stand my ex and to be honest isn’t even close at all with the bride. Also to add her boyfriend isn’t attending who is family to her, due to family issues so she is going with her brother in law, Another cousin of the bride. I just don’t know now how to feel about all this now. The wedding is today.

My fiancé and I are getting married next year and I just needed to vent about some comments I received that made me feel weird.

Basically when I spoke with my mom about wedding dress shopping she asked me if I knew what kind of dress I wanted and which color I wanted. I was kind of surprised about the color question because white is kind of the default color. I said something about a classic white one and she was like “oh, you want a white dress? Even though you’ve been living with your boyfriend for a couple years already? Oh okay.” (I forget the exact phrasing but it was something about me and boyfriend living together).

I immediately felt super awkward because it felt like she was judging me for wanting to wear white despite not being “pure” I guess? I found this super strange and kind of offensive because it’s 2026 not 1950… and also that’s none of her business.

I got similar comments from my aunts (her sisters) because the first question they asked me was “what color do you want your dress to be?” I totally understand that some people wear non-white dresses at their wedding but I kind of thought white was the assumed color so the fact that all 3 asked me the same question made me think it wasn’t just an innocent question and that they had the same judgment over me. I’m so confused because we don’t come from a religious background at ALL. One of them asked me “white or ivory?” so maybe she was genuinely curious about the shade but idk.. I just felt really weird like more was being implied.

Is this a normal question to be asked over and over again first thing? How would you react if you were asked?