Kalian yang cerai, awalnya apa yang bikin yakin nikah?
Sahabat ane sendiri ternyata lagi proses perceraian. Karena istrinya selingkuh (kalau menurut dia).
Barusan di reddit sebelah juga ada komodo bikin thread otw mau cerai.
Jadi kepikiran.
Sahabat ane sendiri ternyata lagi proses perceraian. Karena istrinya selingkuh (kalau menurut dia).
Barusan di reddit sebelah juga ada komodo bikin thread otw mau cerai.
Jadi kepikiran.
Sebelumnya uda pernah cerita disini soal adek cewe yang gagal nikah dan masuk fase breakup.
Uda hampir 3 bulan sejak mereka putus. I see her go thru the 5 stages of grief. Sekarang, meski dari luar adek gw uda terlihat baek2 aja tapi all signs say otherwise.
Minggu lalu ane sempat liburan ke Mainland China dengan keluarga, tentunya bawa adek cewe gw ini juga. She's perfectly ok and enjoyed the trip bareng kita, except I can tell she also she's not really with us sometimes. Selama liburan dia ngobrol dengan seseorang, or what I think are multiple guys dari dating app. I know kalau diem2 dia selalu beli alkohol tiap kita balik ke hotel, dan tidur paling hanya 2-4 jam sehari (itinerary selalu pagi dan kita sangat banyak jalan/hiking) tapi untungnya dia masih bisa function dan ngga sakit. The last 2 days when we're in Chongqing, she basically went clubbing somewhere till dawn.
I personally did asked and somewhat nagged at her for doing all these back in China - but all she can say is "these are all temporary" and "right now she's not in the mood to do much else". She mentioned that breaking up AND losing her job at once makes her feel aimless and unsure what to do. She did mention she's planning to stay in Japan for a month, and then spent a year or so studying in China, altho now I'm not sure if she really meant it.
Now ever since kita uda balik ke Indo, keknya makin ngga ada improvement. My sis lives with my aunt in Jakarta (who is a single woman and is effectively her godmother, altho kind but she also has a lot of personal issues). Baru2 ini our aunt complains to my dad that my sis was pretty much absent from the house - she only came back home to sleep during the day and go out from the evening till next morning. My aunt herself regularly went clubbing so she can tell that my sis right now does the same thing. I chatted her how she's doing and my sis can only say "I'm good, not much to say cos same old same old" even tho all reports say she's wasting away. And it concerns me a lot cos she went from a productive, go-getter woman to this.
Again, I want to think that time will heal but it doesn't show. As a guy and a bro, I'm unsure if I can help anyway at all. I had a female cousin who also went thru a breakup a few months back that also lives in Jakarta, and I'm considering if it may help at all if she can reach out and talk to my sis instead of myself.
I just got back yesterday. This is my 3rd trip in China after Sichuan and Yunnan, this time I went with Changsha-Fenghuang-Zhangjiajie-Wulong-Chongqing. We departed on 19th April 2026 as it was reportedly a low season, with temperature all round is humid but very chilly. All hotels, train tickets and attractions were booked from Trip.com around 2 weeks before departure. None of us speak chinese. We pretty much only use 4 apps: Trip.com to book stuff, Alipay to pay for pretty much everything, Wechat to ask for booked items, and Deepseek AI as our ad-hoc guide AND translator.
Since we were a 5-people group with 2 elderly, we had to order 2 DIDI everytime we went somewhere. DIDI is a ride hailing app and is so cheap that even public transportation sometimes might not be worth it. My itinerary was also very packed and I do consider we're very lucky all things considered with the weather and timing. We literally clocked at least 20.000 steps every single day according to my Huawei health. Roads and hike trails were very comfortable - both me and my fiancee wore Croc shoes the whole trip and were fine. We also shopped on Taobao/Pinduoduo around day 1 and have them delivered to our last hotel in Chongqing for pickup - they're very cheap and we're pretty satisfied with all the items (some of them are pretty much Uniqlo quality items with half the price tag)
If there are any questions, feel free to ask!