AITA for getting back together with my boyfriend for the 5th time and wanting to break up - again
I was widowed with young kids at 39. Remarried and divorced from a husband that was a serial cheater. Met a man on dating site that had been widowed 4 years earlier. At first he was seriously the best ever and took me on trips was over the top sweet and made me believe in loyal men and an ability to trust again. Fast forward 2.5 years and multiple breakups and get back togethers I’m here again. Can someone be too nice? He never disagrees with me, but also spends so much time trying to please everyone! Boundaries for his adult, entitled children are virtually non existent and if they ask him to run and get them food when he is supposed to be coming to my house, he will postpone coming over to oblige. If we are out on a date and they call he not only answers, but will have detailed conversations with them and says they are his kids so will always want to answer, so if i don’t want him to-he will leave his phone in the car. Also, his gorgeous spacious home is falling into disrepair and he has no ability to take care of upkeep- we are talking about leaking roofs and caving in sining room ceilings that have been that way for the entire time we have been dating. Other rooms are so packed with items they are unusable. Its not a money issue, its a i can do this and just want to find the time, but he never does. He finally relocated most of his deceased wife’s clothes to the garage 1.5 years after we started dating because i brought it up multiple times. I could go on, but must point out he is loving, excessively kind, attractive, set up for retirement similar to me, but every time i get back with him i feel frustrated and want to push back and create space. AITA for repeatedly trying to push him to make the changes i want and when they don’t happen i break up with him - over and over…..