Looking for extra perspective on event in my (22M) and ex (21F) relationship
Hi, I've been sitting with this for a few months at this point and genuinely just want some outside perspective on this. At the end of 2025, I brought up to my now ex that I felt like she assaulted me. In summary, I felt like I told her to stop multiple times while she was performing sexual activities on me, and she didn't for several minutes. Upon this being brought up to her, she seemed to have a near emotional break and just hung up the phone call.
We tried to make it work for a bit longer because I felt like at the time it was genuine that she felt awful about it, but eventually I did break it off. As part of the conversation, I brought it back up to her and her response was, effectively, "I didn't fucking assault you because I like when I'm overwhelmed."
Of course, there's the inherent given that you're only getting part of the story, but I feel like this is as unbiased as I can tell people. I guess my ultimate question is "am I being too angry and unfair or was she being dumb as shit by applying her own boundaries onto me?"
tl;dr ex crossed a boundary and tried to make me feel like it was my fault. I'm looking to see if there's a perspective that I'm missing.