My friend pointed out that I apologized three times in two minutes and I had no idea I was doing it
We were just having a normal conversation and she stopped and said "you know you don't have to keep saying sorry right." and I genuinely did not realize i had done it. It just comes out automatically whenever I sense even the slightest discomfort in the room. Thinking about it more I realized this started at home. Growing up, when something went wrong it would somehow circle back to me whether I was involved or not. So I learned to apologize first and ask questions later, get ahead of it before it became a bigger thing. I am in my mid twenties now and I still do it constantly, with friends, coworkers, even people I barely know. it feels like something I absorbed so early that I do not even know where to start unlearning it. Has anyone else been through this and found something that actually helped?