I 46F need to know if asking my bf 46M this question was a bad idea?
My boyfriend is a little on the withdrawn side romantically. He doesn't do "what if" questions, he isn't open to talking about relationship stuff unless he wants to. One day I asked if he loved me forever and he responded with, I love you today. Stuff like that.
This morning, I was a little overwhelmed as I am facing selling my home, getting a new job and moving to a new state where I know really only him. I am not well off and I don't have a supportive family so it's a lot to take on by myself. I was feeling a little needy. I asked him if he loved me. I know he does, it was meant more like I wanted to hear it. He has asked me that in the past, I thought it was kind of a normal thing. Apparently, I asked one time too many. It ruined our entire day, he got extremely irritated with me and basically felt called out for not making me feel loved enough. Like he wanted to break up over it because he feels like if I need reassurance he must not be able to love me the way I need it. Was reaching out for connection this way a bad idea?